My good friend was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. It was quite aggressive making it necessary to have a double mastectomy right away. After the shock of the news subsided a bit I thought what can I do to help her through this tough time. I live in California and she lives in Arizona making it nearly impossible to be present on a regular basis.
I know she will not ask me for anything. I need to think of things on my own. The chemotherapy will start soon and so will her journey to recovery. I know there are going to be tough times ahead. Friends are so important during this time. I want to be a good friend.
I wasn’t sure what I could send to cheer her up so I tried to think about what the days would be like when she got her chemo.
I came up with this
I don’t even know all the details of the chemo yet (place, time spent getting it, etc.) I do know from others that it can cause her to get cold and she could be sitting at the medical facility for several hours. So I decided to get her a tote bag, cozy lap blanket, some cozy slipper socks, and a number of magazines that she can flip through.
I started to get a little crazy as I wrapped the packages. I was wanting the tags and such to be perfect, but time was limited. I finally got a hold of myself and remembered what was really important, and it wasn’t a perfect bow or gift tag. What’s important is, she has a friend thinking about her and trying to make her day a bit brighter.
Things you might do for a friend with breast cancer or any other illness
• Send handwritten notes
• Make some frozen meals with instructions so they don’t have to cook
• Be there in person
• Make arrangements for babysitting
• Offer to drive to doctor’s appointments
• Send a good movie you think they will like
• Send some good music (next package will be a meditation CD)
• Arrange for housekeeping
Some people shy away and don’t say or do anything because of the fear of doing it wrong. Or, they feel uncomfortable and don’t know what to say. You can never go wrong with a short little note letting them know you care about them.
Share Your Story
I would love to hear your stories about what someone did for you as you went through chemo that really helped.
I would also love if you would share things you have done for a friend going through this. Together, we can help each other make someone’s life a bit brighter. If you have never left a comment on a blog don’t be shy. Just start typing in the reply box and then hit submit.